I hope the move goes well for you, Norm.
It's difficult to find the right balance between being protective and letting someone make their own mistakes, but I can't help feeling we're too restrictive of young people's freedom these days.
As I've hinted, I had a weird mixture of very old fashioned values and a carte blanche to do what I wanted. It was always seen as my responsibility if I messed up. I think I've benefited from that, overall, and it's the line I took as a step parent, and teaching and working with SEN kids. They will always surprise you if you give them the freedom to be themselves.
Thanks from both of us Sara. I think Michael will turn out better than we ever dared hope in the early days. He's the only child I have who likes trains (like me, but I made a career out of it) - I used to take him to Doncaster station once or twice a week when we were over on vacation - he always stood on platform 4 not far from the buffet, but he did grow to like different locations too and I was pleased with his progress. The thing is, there's nothing for him here, no public transport, no one will give him a job even as a volunteer, and he's worth that and more, with his intelligence and acumen showing through more and more. He actually corrected his social worker a month or so ago when she mentioned an archeologist in connection with dinosaur bones, "no, you mean a paleontologist." We about fell off our chairs trying to restrain our mirth. With praise but not overdoing it he is developing a sense of humour and, I'm not sure yet, but I think a touch of sarcasm - which is at once the best and worst of things. Having the ability elevates him but unthinking usage to someone helping him could defeat the object.
Anyway, I've been going to post this for 2 hours and kept getting distracted, so here goes. TTFN